Why Does Our Generation Find Comfort In Strangers?

by Vrinda Jain
Why Does Our Generation Find Comfort In Strangers?

February 10, 2021

Have you ever found yourself distressed and in no time opening up to a stranger, you might never meet again? Have you ever found yourself in a situation where no one you knew could come to your rescue, but someone you never saw before just told you what you needed at that point? Have you ever found acceptance or validation in someone who doesn't matter?

Science might have just the right answer if you are wondering why we suddenly come around a stranger who thinks like us and understands what we mean? Comforting? Indeed it is. 

Opening up to strangers- this conduct can indeed be considered normal or at least natural. In particular, some “types” of people have a hard time relating to the people they know about. It’s hard for them to do that because they lack confidence. The explanation for their vulnerability is that they fear that some individuals may have negative views about them.

Talking to strangers is so easy.

How Is Talking To Strangers So Easy?

For some, it is not difficult to talk to strangers. It is also a question of creating some form of relationship or contact with another person. For instance, talking to someone in the locker room of your gym or talking to someone at work. But, if a friend, family member, or someone else you know is with you, you might feel nervous or shy.

In other words, you’re feeling awkward. You’re afraid of what they might think, and you don’t want them to have a negative opinion of you. Moreover, you don’t want them to discover your faults or weaknesses. In truth, this is linked to the negative image that you have of yourself.

No Baggage Makes it Easy?

The point is that when you speak to strangers, the subjects you address are typically non-substantial or general. At any rate, you feel comfortable because you don’t know that person, and when you can’t tell them, it is much easier to speak your mind.

In the end, you don’t feel like the other person is going to judge you on your opinions. Besides, you can also play a different character, the person you want to be instead of who you are. This is possible because the conversation is likely to be short, and it’s impossible that you’ll ever be the stranger again. Psychologists also agree that it is helpful to communicate with strangers.

Psychologists also agrees, talking with strangers is helpful

What Is The Psychology Behind This Behaviour?

The explanation for that action is the triviality of the conversation. If you deal directly with clients, you do not have a problem with being polite to people you don’t know about. At most, you know you’re going to talk about the weather, or how you feel, and you probably won’t see it again.

However, as the conversation becomes more personal, you might have to show the other person your true self. This is where the fear of judgement comes in. Your timidity prevents you from revealing who you are. So, you’re not concerned about what people think about you. You’re just worried about the views of people you’re close to or have become acquainted with.

Indeed, the more intimate you are with a person, the more your positive qualities will be concentrated. But they’re still going to see the shortcomings. And maybe what that person thinks of you is going to be too difficult for you to consider.

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Picture showing how fear of judgement can affect you.

A Confidence Boost While Talking To Strangers

As the famous saying goes, feather birds flock together. Many of your close friends are precise as you are. They probably like the same things as you do, they have similar educational achievements, make about the same amount of money as you do, know almost identical items, have shared views of the world, and so on.

Interacting with a group of close friends and associates all the time limits your ability to learn new things. Strangers, on the other hand, they’re nothing like you. They don’t have the same perspective as you, and their educational accomplishments are different from yours, their outlook is different; their desires are others, and so on.

Talking ro strangers gives you a confidence boost.

Opening Up- A Habit

By making it a habit to speak to two or three strangers every day, you progressively begin to feel more comfortable entering into conversations with strangers, and your self-confidence is growing.

Whenever you find yourself in social settings, you avoid feeling uncomfortable or shy because you’re already engaging with strangers. It also gives you the courage to introduce yourself to the individuals you want to meet for some reason.


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